Marriage Counselling

Successful marriages require regular work from both partners. If you feel like the end is near, collect yourself, muster your second wind and leave no stone unturned. It takes real humility to emotionally expose yourself with the confidence that you will not be ridiculed. It will take the both of you, and a therapeutic relationship with a counsellor to get you on the journey to forgiving each other while remembering where you don’t ever want to go again.   

If you do decide to separate, there are options other than court. Dan can assist in one of two ways.

  1. Family Mediation / Dispute Resolution without lawyers until the agreement is reached: Parenting; Child Support; Property; Spousal Support. Producing the Agreement that can be passed to your lawyers to build a separation agreement or variation of existing agreement or to make an adjustment to support calculations.
  2. Collaborative Practice with lawyers. Dan works alongside you as a mental health coach to prepare you to face the very painful emotions that co-exist with separation.

 

Divorce is painful. Don’t make it worse by punishing those around you, destroying your emotional well being and gambling with your financial future. Collaborative practitioners will lead you to the high ground where you will negotiate fairly and achieve an agreement that has victories and fair compromises for everybody involved. 

The collaborative team includes a family/mental health professional, financial divorce specialist and one lawyer for each spouse.

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CPN Logo-Horizontal-WhiteSun Tzu said, “There is no instance of a nation benefiting from prolonged warfare”. Similarly, many would agree that this statement holds true for divorce and the family.

Member: Niagara Collaborative Practice

Affiliations

Ontario Association of Family Mediation

Ontario Collaborative Legal Practice and Divorce Happens

Ontario Association of Social Workers

About Collaborative Practice

Collaborative Practice is a cooperative, voluntary, conflict resolution process. The essence of the process is the belief that it is in the best interests of the parties and their families to avoid adversarial proceedings, to resolve their differences with minimum conflict, and to work together to create shared solutions to the issues. The goal of Collaborative Practice is to maximize the settlement options to both parties, to increase the abilities of families to communicate in a post-separation relationship, and to minimize, if not eliminate, the negative economic, social and emotional consequences to families that have broken down.

In choosing Collaborative Practice, the parties and their lawyers commit to settling the case without court involvement. The participants agree to devote all of their efforts to achieve a negotiated settlement.

Collaborative Practice relies on an atmosphere of honesty, cooperation, integrity, and professionalism geared towards the future well-being of all family members.

Collaborative Practice uses informal discussions and short conferences to settle issues.

Collaborative Practice requires each party to identify their needs and all participants use their best efforts to create settlement proposals that meet both parties’ fundamental needs.

Benefits of the Collaborative Approach

  • You control the process and the outcome, not the lawyers or the courts
  • You insulate your children from the negative effects of a relationship breakdown
  • You avoid lengthy and devastating legal battles
  • You save significant time and money
  • Settlement addresses both parties’ needs and concerns

Is Collaborative Practice for You?

  • Are you both determined to behave in a respectful, ethical manner towards one another instead of seeking revenge?
  • Do you both value a negotiated solution that meets both parties’ needs?
  • Will both of you make a commitment towards creative problem-solving to find solutions based on real needs not abstract rights?

Issues Concerning Children

In resolving issues about sharing the enjoyment of and responsibility for children, the participants make every effort to reach amicable solutions that put the children’s best interests first. The participants agree to act quickly to resolve differences related to the children and to promote a caring, loving and involved relationship between the children and both parents. They agree to insulate the children from the dispute by refraining from making negative comments about the other parent and by maintaining an attitude of respect and cooperation toward the other.

Negotiations in Good Faith

The process, even with full and honest disclosure, involves vigorous good-faith negotiation by each party. Parties use their best efforts to create proposals that meet the fundamental needs of family members. Although the likely outcome of a litigated result may be discussed, none of the participants will use threats of going to court as a way to force settlement by the other.

Ending the Collaborative Process

Either party may terminate the Collaborative process for any reason by giving written notice of termination to the other participants. The decision to take court action automatically terminates the Collaborative Process and the involvement of your lawyers, which means that you will have to start from scratch.